I have always been a nerdy guy. My favorite childhood memories involve words like [BAM!] <POW!> & {Ka-BOOM!}. If you looked at my Netflix queue, it is packed full of sci-fi and fantasy titles. I was an MMO guy during my bachelor years and still enjoy an annual Steam Summer Sale binge. My enjoyment of all things geek-ery is limited by one thing: my wife.
We share many interests, but the super-hero-Doctor-cosplay side of life is not one of them. Until we got married, she had never seen Star Wars. When I got excited over Guardians of the Galaxy, she just looked at me perplexed.
As fellow geeks of the female-persuasion, how do you reach out to your womanly friends who don't share your affinity for WWZ or a rousing game of Settlers? Any thoughts or suggestions on how to get my loving wife to wade into the shallow end of the nerd-life?
- Ben "Help Bring Her to the Dark Side" Kenobi
Eye Candy
Dear Ben,
The great news is that geekery is so vast and so overlapping that she might already like geeky things and she doesn't even realize.
But if it turns out that she has no existing geek interests this is where to start: hot guys.
The great news is that geekery is so vast and so overlapping that she might already like geeky things and she doesn't even realize.
But if it turns out that she has no existing geek interests this is where to start: hot guys.
Be secure in your manhood and be her wing-man into fandom because she might be overlooking something that many geek girls are well aware of, the eye candy. If nothing else works appeal to the part of her that will forever be 13 and drooling over dreamy boys.
Forget Magic Mike - we have men that do not need to take off their clothes to turn us into screaming fan girls. You don't have to sell her on geek culture these guys will do it for you, then hopefully over time her fangirling will turn into genuine interest. Then once she has an interest in some facet of geek culture try to find other things that are similar.
What was I talking about....I just....I got distracted.
Here is a quick list of TV and Movies suggestions that are geeky, approachable and contain hot men.
Arrow
Game of Thrones
The Walking Dead
Buffy The Vampire Slayer
Once Upon a Time
True Blood
Sherlock
Star Trek (the new JJ Abrams ones.)
The Avengers, Iron man, Thor, Captain America any of these especially if Loki shows up.
Hunger Games
Divergent
Here is a quick list of TV and Movies suggestions that are geeky, approachable and contain hot men.
Arrow
Game of Thrones
The Walking Dead
Buffy The Vampire Slayer
Once Upon a Time
True Blood
Sherlock
Star Trek (the new JJ Abrams ones.)
The Avengers, Iron man, Thor, Captain America any of these especially if Loki shows up.
Hunger Games
Divergent
Cosplay
Once she has developed an interest in something you can work on how to express the interest in other ways. Halloween is a great time for this! Let's say she loves Iron Man maybe you could suggest a couples costume that she is Pepper Pots and you are Tony Stark. You could even go on Pinterest together and plan your costumes and look at other costumes. Pinterest is like lady crack. Then if she's up for this later you could state that these costumes would be perfect to wear to a con and wouldn't it be fun because it's like you get another Halloween! |
Games
Get her phone and see if she has any game apps. It doesn't matter what they are, download them too on your phone. Ask or observe which one she plays the most and then you play it too even if it is Kardashian related.
Take an interest in the games she likes then after you have been playing her games for a while maybe she would be more agreeable to play one that is more fun for you.
Take an interest in the games she likes then after you have been playing her games for a while maybe she would be more agreeable to play one that is more fun for you.
I hope this helps. She also might never come around to embrace your geek interests but really it's all just entertainment and culture and it is just fine to have separate interests.
I learned to like college football for my husband. I was just tired of getting ignored on Saturday so I asked him to explain the game to me and over time I learned to enjoy football. People can change a little there is always hope.
Good luck, and remember - the dark side has cookies.
Your friends at Geek Girls, Inc.
I learned to like college football for my husband. I was just tired of getting ignored on Saturday so I asked him to explain the game to me and over time I learned to enjoy football. People can change a little there is always hope.
Good luck, and remember - the dark side has cookies.
Your friends at Geek Girls, Inc.